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As #WomensMonth is coming to an end...dmn this month over already-sheesh; but I received a call earlier this month. I actually thought it was. an emergency becuz I am NOT a phone person n anyone who knows me is well aware of the notion. I instantly answer the call cuz the one on the receiving end feels the same way so it must be something haha. Well...a soft voice greets me n proceeds to invite me to her podcast. She gives me the whole presentation of why she chose ya girl to join her n little did she know...I had already said YES from the moment I seen her name pop up on my screen. The MRS. Kim Brown from a podcast her and her husband host called: Marriage Moments which can be found on all podcast platforms. I've been watching this couple grow for years as they've used their platform on FB to talk about the rawness n ups n downs of their love. She's done many speaking engagements to share her story n journey with parenting as a single mom to finding love and blending the family as well as her recent moments in dealing with grieving. I recently touched on this in a previous post: Lucid Dreams becuz we are at the age where our parents n grandparents are gonna start dropping like mixtapes. I was honored she thought that much of me to be apart of her "Ladies Night" segment becuz I support n admire her work. She is actually one of the few people I can't say NO to becuz I trust her n we have history! I was looking forward to this recording and the meetup in the Underground Lab. Yall may recall my time there previously being apart of Wine Down Wednesday's with DJ Shane. I must say...Kim knows some pretty dope women. We all gathered as strangers and left with an addition to our sister circles. I went in blindly. I planned to toss in a quick intro about my blog n roll wit the punches. I think I'm quite witty to wing it n freestyle haha. In true VIP fashion, Kim treated her guest-US-to some refreshments and we chugged it down with some Hux Spirits which was delish. Please know even as a "non-drinker" I took a squiggling to taste a little bit of em ALL n this chocolate bourbon is my FAVE!! I like fruity drinks but this will definitely be ordered as a nightcap **hiccup** So this session had us laughing n crying throughout. It was an honest discussion n I appreciated the vulnerable moment we shared together. It was definitely everything I didn't know I needed. Overall, it was a good phkn time. After awhile, I forgot we were recording becuz the convo was just that organic. Normally, when u meet new heaux u gotta sit back n peep the scene. We all jumped in head first. The convo swayed from family life to losing loved ones and there was such a breakthrough where we all in that moment were there for each other in a special way. Like...with each story shared; u could really feel it being IN the room. This is why I think it's so important to set those intentional dates with ur girls to check in n pour into each other. Life be life' n there's no need to burden our companions wit girl talk n gossip (news flash: these men do NOT care bout our real housewives tales). We need more of these "Ladies Nights" moments more often to continue cultivating that relationship which grows as we get older. There's moment where we dealing with death, kids bout to go off making us empty nesters (3 yrs for me but who's counting) n changes in life as it relates to marriages n even divorce-We NEED each other. THANK YOU KIM!! For inviting me and thinking so highly of me to kick it with u and extending ur girls to me. It was such a safe space and I'm glad to be apart of it. I'm getting more n more comfy on the mic yall...ioooon know...a gal can get use to coming out her shell. Networking has been paying off. Be sure to check out Kim's Ladies Night Episode which drops Friday and catch up on their Marriage Moments-it's actually pretty good. Proud of Kim for picking up her passion again after hiatus. Linking up some dope women...bravo my love! I love how we are finding our tribe that just so happen to be women goin in the same direction. This shyt is amazing!! The girls who get it-get it. I ain't gotta toss out disclaimers cuz they just automatically understand the lingo...wheeeew! This is a relief.

Welcome to Spring 2022!! I am excited when the seasons change becuz it's an extra vigor in the air as the days are longer to enjoy. The sun is out after 4p which means the mood changes n depression lightens up. It's refreshing to wake up to the loud azz birds n I get to catch the sunrise with the time change. Speaking of time change...losin an hour definitely hit different this go round. If they gonna make it permanent then they need to wait til we get our hour back-phk that. Nonetheless, let the "Hey Big Head" sessions commence haha. This is the time where past loves resurface or as the kids say "spin the block" cuz folks go in heat. I will be spinning the block n Hey Big Head'n a love of my own..his name is Lowe's who lives nearby Home Depot. I want to visit local nurseries this season and turn my balcony into a whole azz jungle lol. I don't really have the space for more houseplants **looks at my occupant in Apt B who's a dependent for another 3 yrs** Yall know how I feel about blooms. Waking up to flowers n spritzing home mists kickstart my day. With the world officially opening back up n mandates getting relaxed to deleted; that means going back into the office more often than not **cue horror scream** and what does that mean... #WerkCouture Luckily becuz I never stopped dressing during the pandemic, I never lost my mojo! Unfortunately for some of yall heaux who did...u need me n VOILA-here I am. I am fighting to maintain a flexible schedule to still work from home tho becuz the quality of life is so much better n since I'm still productive AT HOME. I'm allowed to get in time with my grandma during the week n do errands at lunch **rolls eyes at BD's** I can't see ever going back to 100% being IN the office when we have adapted to a less stressful way of work for two years. Solo dates are BACK in effect haha. I wanna mingle a tad more socially n although I'm not a drinker; HH appetizers are meant to be devoured with water on the rocks. I've been enjoying meeting strangers in this part of my life n confident in my discernment brings valuable people who mean well. I also have been blessed to be what seems to be a unicorn n be covid free thus far so I'll still balance being outside with hibernation. Allergy season been sneak attacking as is..I don't wanna get no sicker than that lol. First up on the Spring "to do" list is keep the Cherry Blossom tradition goin. This is the peak week so I'll be making my way downtown for those and planning a ditch day with Mason. Every year we do a mental day together. I ditch work, I let him skip school n we just take a day of adventure together. I started this when he was around 5 where our skip day was a trip to the Baltimore Aquarium n lunch. We tend to forget about the kids during our own grind n day to day hustle. To give kids a mental day is also important becuz we all have these pause from life moments. It gives me a chance to bond n give him a voice to express himself with no judgement n allows me to peek into his teenage life. He's growing up so fast before my eyes n I wanna make sure I keep up with him n let him know his mama is a safe space. So my goals for this Spring...work on getting my financial life together. With chicken being the new caviar, my gas tank being filled as if I drive a bus n the loom of everything else going up higher than...well..hell GAS; I need to act like I'm on a "fixed income" as my retired dad loves to say now. Still being kind to myself n taking one step at a time. I do plan on making a quick style guide-I'll test it out here-for a uniform look to be refined. My style has been changing n of course it's gearing to anything relaxed cuz being comfy is mandatory at my age. Random staycations also on my 'to do' list to explore mini downtowns n boutiques outside my vicinity n norm. Thinking...Richmond in the future! Where shall Spring have u bloom? What plans do u have for the season? or u ready to just speed thru to summer...yes bring on the heat...and humidity-says not me!!

Merrily, Merrily, Merrily, Merrily, life is but a dream. I notice we make life harder than it has to be. I don’t know if it’s becuz we gotta prove shyt or if we’ve been so caught up in the hustle n grind it’s the only life we know but honeychiiiiiiiiile lemme tell ya somethin…it ain’t gotta be this way! Often times we are captivated by the poverty mindset, it's hard to even fathom a life of abundance being obtainable or maybe u think u gotta be rich to enjoy the lifestyle. Whatever the reason, just know ur deserving of a life to be smooth sailing. Make no mistake I’m not saying everyday is gonna be a fresh crop of flowers greeting u and breakfast in bed made by whomever of ur dreams-No! Let’s be real here…but I am saying some of y’all heaux out here looking sad by choice n I’m here to help pull u out of that drought of misery. The first leap of faith is always the hardest but when u start seeing a change in outcomes, you'll understand the magic of it all. I know the trendy wave is the M word: Manifest but this is a full lifestyle change to aide in the manifestations (which seems to have replaced or has become a new way to say prayers). I have no time frame for how long this will take u once u start the journey, the pace u go is up to u. It took me a while to reap the benefits but I also didn't realize what I was sowing until recent. U can either continue to wither away in Mary J sad songs or come to the greener side as Groove Me by Guy stays on blast. I’ll give y’all a solid 5 to start on how to enjoy life being as easy like Sunday morniiiiiing. How to live a Soft n Gentle Life Phk deez kids (if u can't relate, feel free to skip): Yes, we love our kids n sacrifice n blah blah blah. Once u get pass all the default lovey dovey shyt u must recognize u have to make urself a priority. In 2017 I did a post; Selfish Mother becuz I had to learn the hard way after losing my mojo. My kids don't come before me (outside of necessities) becuz I've learned after prioritizing myself, I can maximize being the best mom to them with a greater sense of patience n understanding. I've developed a good relationship with them learning how to effectively love them n communicate after putting me first. There's room to pour even more into my kids without the stress of being overwhelmed at the job. Rebuke Struggle Love: (this can also include friends) I am at the point to where, I don't wanna work hard to maintain relationships. There should be a certain groove that happens between us to where, we just-get it. Although my weakness (or toxic trait lol) can be non-verbal communication cuz I can read people fairly well n either we have the spark or we don't but this love affair should be like 2 people on a see-saw. You give n get n keep the effort going up n down via collaboration. I don't have to question anyone's loyalty, I don't need to chase a man n I'm able to recognize genuine people who mean no harm. You have to let go of folks who don't add value n makes u feel as negative as they are. If I am sunshine, I wanna inspire someone who may not be in the best mood to at least push out a smirk with my "me-ness" n vice versa. YOU control who u allow into ur life n I am picky with whom I choose to have relationships with becuz I know it can affect my overall being with who n what I associate with. Pay the 5 Gina: I really should start a segment called "we make too much money to..." becuz the poverty mindset from childhood seems to have followed us into adulthood. I am not saying blow money fast but come ooooon, we are making twice as much as our parents n we have surely moved up to the deluxe apartment in the sky-hi-hi. In my IG stories recently, I had did a quick soapbox about renting vs buying. I do NOT debate on this topic becuz this is subjective to everyone's lifestyle and pockets. As it relates to me, I prefer luxury living n I "pay the 5" for convenience. Growing up I had to hand wash dishes. A dishwasher was such a luxury n took the load off **pun intended** from manual labor. We never ran it without a full load to avoid wasting water. Fast forward to today where appliances are energy efficient. I have no qualms nor shame in my game to hit that phkn start button to the dishwasher without it being full **gasp n cue great aunt rolling in her grave** I'm just not about working hard. There are also times where I'd go grocery shopping n still grab something to eat cuz I don't feel like cooking-what I just got at Wegman's. Crazy right lol, but it's just easy living for me n I am blessed with the options to do so. Stop stressing: I know I know, easier said than done. We be so obsessed with overthinking n chasing this idea of everything has to be juuuuust right. Old folks always say "when it rains, it pours" and just when u think u got ahead it's always something. Whenever I get these knocks to throw me off balance, I always allow myself to feel sad or mad. I mean, I can't avoid my initial reaction. Nobody ever hits their toe or have any injuries n say "this feels great" with a smile. No! There's a ying yang to life. Remember when I said earlier, everything isn't rosy all the time. When the rain comes, I don't sit in gloom too long becuz I shrug my shoulders n Que Sera Sera cuz I can't stress over nothing I can't control. I had an incident where I was ticketed AND towed (totally my fault n I had no problem taking ownership of the laziness) n although it was an inconvenience, I didn't allow myself to sit in the loss. I take all my tickets to court n I was taking this whooping like a G. Whether I have the funds or not, I always maintain the attitude to where the money will come. I have no idea how or where from, I just know a way WILL be made. After the ordeal, life goes on n out the blue I receive a call from a rep from the courts who is aware of my ticket n blesses me with clearing my debt n dismissing the ticket. Byyyyyyyyyytch.... LOOK AT GAWD!!! I couldn't thank that man enuff for such great UNEXPECTED news!! The thing is...there are plenty more of these stories that work in my favor since adapting this soft way of living. While I am aware nobody takes these types of chances as I do, I just know at the end of the day-HE got me! Whhhheeeeew **steps away for another praise break** It's moments like this that reminds me how real God is and how I have angels looking out for me. Ok, we are almost done. I could really go on n prolly do a Part Deux but these are quick starters. Lastly...here we go... Take Pride in yo self: Yall know I preach this quite often. Care about urself as much as u care to dress up on special occasions. The same efforts n energy u put into putting ur best foot forward for a job interview, keep that same mentality in ur everyday life. I enjoy waking up n the first thing I do before the typical morning routine is make my bed up! It’s the ONE thing I know if I don’t do anything else for the day-I've accomplished something. Taking pride in urself is also fostering relationships n making intentional time with friends n fam. I enjoy planning time wit friends n looking forward to the date. Moving with intentions should always be the goal n aligning urself with people who on the same path as u. I am currently uppin the ante with learning French n there's such a sense of pride in feeling as good as I look n elevating in other ways such as learning new shyt. I reflect how I feel, I reflect who I am within how I enjoy living-softly...easy going n this keeps my skin young, my attitude refreshing n allows me to grow without limitations. I am in no way trying to be perfect. It's always been quite boring to me, but I definitely have no need to live a hard life. Some people may say, nonchalant...mmmm, I'll take that. I love the energy of great people n bumping into strangers who engage. I look forward to experience all the goodness life has to offer before I am taken away from earth. It's not being oblivious to what is going on in the world as if my head is in the sand, I just choose to not let the ugliness seep into my soul n rest in my heart. That's why I'm easy, easy like Sunday morniiiiiiing :)

03 March 2001 This year turning 41 was silently different for me, I had a jolt of reality recognizing this year I would pretty much surpass the age of my mom when she died. I can't imagine what life would look like for my kids if I were to die today. Mason is around the same age as my brother when we lost our mom and it took a toll on his teen years. Fast forward to 21 years today...my generation of friends are starting to experience the loss of a parent and grieving in a way I had to half my life ago. As inevitable as death is nobody likes to talk about and address the what if's which really should be the "when"as we age. I've gained a better understanding of death since I've had to handle it at its highest level n that's the emotional part where I feel for my friends the most. While my parents n grandma left are in good health, I'm not oblivious to believe they will live another 60+ years and the life cycle continues to tick. My dad reminds me he's on the "back nine" of life and as he's recently retired, he is looking forward to enjoying the rest of life cuz the stats of a black man's life expectancy isn't as long as women (lol which he also reminds me). My grandma is barely 80 n as a breast cancer survivor, I make it my business to spend time with her as much as possible. Even if I go over after work to sit n chat for an hour or 2 and listen to her ramble on how we've lived around DC. I love listening to the memories of my mom, even if they are repeats. I can't believe leaving earth at this age. I still feel young n vibrant with more marks to leave on earth n look forward to watching my kids grow up. The grieving n coping is a never ending journey. You never get over it and they say time heals the wounds...it don't. U just have to get in a space to recognize life still goes on and the time doesn't stop. Since my mom died, I have dreams about her n don't realize its my mom til after the fact becuz she's not there AS my mom. Towards the end of my dreams when my real conscious n brain click to tell me its my mom...the dream is over n I wake up fighting to go back to sleep. So much so I dont even open my eyes. I linger fully woke n feeling sad becuz I don't know when the next time I'll have a dream of my mother. I miss her as much today as I did when she died so these dreams bring solace n come right on time. It's not like we have a weekly or monthly date to "meetup" n I could prolly count on one hand how often I have these dreams in a year. I would be lying if I didn't say I would be jealous of those who still have their moms and I feel bad for my brother at times becuz I have longer memories of our mom given we are 5 yrs apart. Yes, I felt robbed becuz I just didn't think it was fair that I wouldn't grow up with my mom n watch how she'd be as a grandma n get all the motherly advice she'd give. What has brought me comfort is knowing that in her sickest of moments, she'd tell me I would be in good hands becuz I would be left with my stepmom. There was a sense of relief during the convo becuz she assured me she had been preparing me n knew I'd continue my Big Sis role to take care of my brother-which I definitely did lol. Since her passing I've been blessed with fairy godmothers who have taken me under their wings n been great support systems in guiding me through life. I move with a sense of WWAD (what would Annette do) n feel her presence near whenever I wanna react in a manner she wouldn't approve of. It's definitely painful knowing she should be here. I even roll my eyes at her for not being here but I know the essence of my mama lives within me and I am extremely proud of the woman I am today when I look in the mirror. She taught me sophistication n walking in confidence n that's a power nobody can take from me. I can never fully emulate her greatness but I'm definitely a soft echo of the legacy she's left behind within me. This is why I pride myself in having a good reputation. Anyone who my mom has come across has nothing but nice things to say n I'd like to think I leave a pretty good impression amongst strangers. I've mastered some emotional awareness where I can feel a shut down moment n take off work or do away with the world n enjoy a day of nothing. I also self-soothe with relaxing in bubble baths. So for those who have lost a parent and/or close relatives n friends; I get it. I've been there. I understand. This shyt is NOT easy, it'll never be easy n it's ok to sit in those pockets of grief that randomly hit chew. Until the reunion actually happens, just know mini meet ups will occur in ur dreams!

Every few 500-1k followers, I tend to do a re-intro. It's like a welcome to the newbies and the shenanigans of my space. I am also shy at intro's. Whenever we had to do these for classes, I felt so vain talkin bout myself. Like I don't know...sounds like I'm speaking on myself in the third person lol. So who am I... I started blogging yeeeaaars ago. My history actually extends to Kandid Koilz when I first started my #naturalhair journey in 2009 after joining with my co-worker who persuaded me to jump in the game. I immersed myself in the life n documented my growth n found friends via Curly Nikki and local meetups. Fun times!! I loooove to write; my vintage blog can be found here -I do plan on reviving some of them to transition them within this space but my natural hair chatter then turned into random thoughts n fashionable shares. As a former model, I love to take pics n they're often times snapped by me (unless Mason is free **eyeroll**) Over the years, I've cultivated my space to share my lifestyle becuz I'm a mix of everything n don't like to just be in a box of only n just **insert one signature** and more so figuring it out as I go along. I'm just getting to a point of consistency n it's been paying off. I've gotten invites for podcasts n VIP events for fashion shows which tickles me pink becuz it's so unexpected. My target audience is within my age group (generation): Forty Won becuz I toss in vintage references only...we get; plus the newer generation finds Fresh Prince funnier than Martin-crazy right!! I am well aware I am in the "auntie" category which is fine with me. I am not tryin to nor can I keep up with these younginz. I've had my time n just watch from afar as they enjoy theirs. I have my own younginz who tend to keep me quite young n hip. A mom of two boys with an age range of a teen to terror tot. My mini me's, my before n after's, my sweet innocent angels. I pride myself on ensuring I had some happy babies by not stressing while they were in the womb. They both wake up wit a smile n giggle in they sleep. I'm enjoying the early days when kids actually wanted to be around they moms until the terror tots turn into treacherous teens **eyeroll** While my oldest is not treacherous in any way, he's quite simple n doesn't ask for much. These kids these days just....different but we have a strong tribe and their amazing dads who be hating on my motherly love when they tend to velcro to my underarms. I am the homiest homebody of the homebody-ers! I have never been a socialite. I cringe at crowded places yet I do enjoy being amongst society n people so I balance the whole introverted-ness with a dash of extrovert as the spirit hits. I love the idea of bumping into strangers and learning different walks of life annnnd the flip side is...I always need a recharge n time to self. Even at work sometimes I do "Me days" or "mental health" days to do NOTHING or just spend time with myself n go around solo. So I don't totally avoid people lol-I love yall. Meetups n taking relationships beyond the screen is important for humanity. So if u see me in these streets, say Hey!- I do not bite and I am approachable! While it's a no brainer to majority of the time find me home...the times I do venture out u can always and I do mean ALWAYS find me in my main 3 locations during the weekend. I find such pleasure n joy in maintaining my happy by being present as my way to decompress from the work week. I have such an obsession n should dmn near be an ambassador for these places lol. I definitely have stock involved haha. My Saturday's can NOT get started without my presence amongst these places I frequent n it's pretty much my "Cheers". I am a familiar face n we look forward to each other at this point n greet on first name bases. And in that order: Starbucks, Wegmans and Nordstrom There's no one who can self-care more than I care bout self over here!! Saturday mornings are my peace + tranquility I look forward to in efforts to kick start my weekends. I am out the house by 730a n my IG stories begin with my signature song "A Beautiful Morning" by The Rascals as I scroll to my first stop-Starbucks! As I sip on my drink (anything caramel-ish) n this is where I play catch up on social media, plan out my day and update my planners n people watch. I have a small household n I prefer my foods fresssssh so I shop weekly at Wegmans. It's mandatory for me lol. U know ur an adult when u get excited at finding new snacks n foods to try at the grocery store. After dropping off groceries n straightening up the house; I head off to Nordies (or Target). Even if I'm just window shopping or just seeing something from my wishlist in person, it's my tiny piece of happiness and then my day can begin! My fashion sense is ballsy with the sense that I'm open to trying shyt outside the box n my style is in honor of my mother. I balance the two by dressing in a manner to show my personality and carry an ode to my style icons with how I carry myself in the couture of it all. I come from a long line of models-ok just my grandma n mom-so I battle the lines between risky n polished. I shop n wear in what makes me feel good n represents a story I want to convey upon arrival. I'm not a trendy dresser becuz I can't keep up n there's something refreshing to enjoy an older era with a modern spin. I prefer transitional styles where I can wear year round. I grew up in fashion shows n watching them on the weekends so my walk is perfected to using every aisle, sidewalk n hallways as a runway. When u look good, u feel good and it's my way of giving back to the community! Between being a mom, fully employed and juggling balls of life; I enjoy creating intentional time to blog becuz I love writing n sharing my random thoughts with the masses. It also doesn't hurt I'm always down for a photoshoot. U won't see a bunch of luxury unboxings-not the way gas prices looking these days but I can sure nuff share some totes under $100 I find worthy enuff to "splurge" on. You won't see me strutting in stiletto's but u gonna get every bit of these kitten heels. Oh travel...yup, got cha covered. This summer I'm definitely gonna be poolside...of my luxury living amongst my residence after a picnic on the greens across the street near a lake! 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Welcome to March. I am excited for the first of the month's becuz its a good time to RESET! I can feel the rejuvenation in the air with the weather changing...daylight savings time looming to Spring forward and the urge for the country to get back to a sense of normalcy with these mask on or off. It's like...our prerogative at this point lol. February was a short yet felt longer than usual to me. I was able to crush my own challenge with my RedLipsOfLove post which I am VERY proud of cuz it surprised the hell out of me. That led me to think of another challenge to self this month. I definitely know I want to do a fasting of some sort. It'll be for 5 days to start me off. Maybe not eating after a certain hour or taking a break from Nordies...I know...unlikely right lol but just saying...I need to reset and meditate on some things and I think this method will bring some clarity to situations that ponder in my brain on which direction to move. I know I need to read more and definitely want to dip back into an exercise regimen. I gotta get a routine and challenging myself keeps me accountable. I am looking forward to the seasonal change and taking a trip to indulge in the Cherry Blossoms downtown (DC) becuz it's turned into sort of a tradition since I've started after having my Toot and this year will be my 4th time. The peak bloom is towards the end of the month so I'll prolly make it a skip day from work (and Mason for school cuz I mean...I'll need a photographer **evil grin**). The weather can be tricky. We have peek-a-boo days where it gets over 65 but then drops back to winter time within 24 hrs. So crazy...we call it New Moan Ya Weather!! A few years ago we had a full on snow day on the first day of Spring. I have a balcony to also clean off becuz although outside will be open, I'm still naturally a homebody lol. I want to puuuuurge n make room! My weekly blossoms shall resume and I will visit local nurseries for plants. The natural light that comes in makes my house a home and I love walking in my door to see flowers. The smallest of joys that make a big difference. So here's to new beginnings, the start of women's month, fresh challenges and a full reset for the month to be better than the last month. I am excited and will continue to do weekly posts...maybe twice a week-OOH!! Maybe that could be my challenge..hmmm...who knows! What are u looking forward to this month? Anything u looking to accomplish? Need a do over? For those who go through seasonal depression, the sun will shine longer soon. Fresh air is right around the corner to embrace and enjoy. I'm ready to be amongst the people n have some picnics at the park :)

Day 28: Red Lips of Love I must say...I didn't think I'd make it here. When I challenged myself to wear #RedLipstick for a whole azz month, I was nervous. I had already tossed it out there to make myself accountable so having to back it up was scary. I have a history of being inconsistent, procrastination with a slight overcast of overthinking **gasp** so when 01 Feb hit, I was amped n hit the ground running. I never anticipated the change that came with the challenge. If you're familiar with the backstory: The Power of Red then you'd understand my low-key hesitance of the infamous red shade to be worn on my face. I'm actually surprised I had so many options of red becuz its the least worn shade. I went for the gusto yall. Even when I didn't go outside (majority of the month lol) I was in the house sitting pretty in red. To some it might sound crazy becuz who "wastes makeup" when they have no where to go. I've proven that I don't need a special occasion to be the occasion n reason I dress up so the touch of red lipstick was just an extra touch. Out of 28 days, I skipped out twice n felt guilty becuz it means I missed my mark. That quickly subsided when I recognized that's a helluva record for a first timer n I'm still proud of myself. It helped me stay consistent with blogging n having a social media presence as well. To rediscover some old time faves made my heart smile and the encouragement from others felt good too. I didn't know my own strength **in my Nippy voice** and I will say...it was a MUST to wear foundation with a red lip. I hate a dry face wit a red lip cuz then heaux be looking ashy lol-no bueno!! I kept it pretty simple with a 10 min face but the red lips was such a BOOM u don't need to do much which I appreciated. For that alone, it amp'd me to know I can do this beyond the challenge. I perfected a good "default" face with little as possible. Of all the red lippies, I prefer a more matte finish. There's something grown n sultry about the way a matte red gives off a quiet confidence on a woman's face. It's like u already SEE it cuz it's red but a matte allows the rest of the face to naturally glow. It also leaves a stain as the wear goes on throughout the day so there's little to no retouches. Just make sure ur lips are READY haha. I meeeean the prep is key-lip scrub n mask before application. What I like most about this challenge was the boost n rejuvenation of being a woman wearing a red lips gives. Even under a mask, although the public couldn't see I had on lipstick, u'd be able to tell I had on something by the way my body moved n my attitude (I'll expand on that another time ;) but just sayin...). My eyes did all the smiling but I felt sexy n mysterious with this red lip. I can appreciate anything that enhances but also makes a great addition to this life of abundance mindset. This whole month was a celebration beyond proving to myself iiiiii could do this. Moving forward, I'll be wearing a red lip more often than not. My typical lip is anything in the nude family so I'm excited I broke out my shell. Now let's get into the inspo for this grand finale look....daaaarliiiings...this was fun n I chuckled at myself soooo hard cuz it really turned out as I pictured LOL!! Like the idea popped in my head after one of my favorite thrift boutique-ers; Modretro Couture posted this red patent leather trench. I had INSTANTLY fell in love becuz its red annnnd it just gave off 80's for me. It put me in the mind frame to recreate an icon of a cult classic movie n I hit up amazon for the main piece to bring it together. VOILA-Cherry Couture was born! Overall, this month of February was fun! I continue to show myself that when u show up for urself everything aligns accordingly. I am loving the direction n clarity I'm getting as I continue to push myself out of bounds n just go for it. We can talk all the manifestations we want n spew out all the ideas we have in our heads but if there's no ACTION behind it-how will we ever know! I'm sure I will redo this challenge February 2023 with additions to get yall more involved so we can do it together. Who knows, I might do a month of all Pinks...Nudes...Vampy...hmmm...we shall see. Thank you all for the recommendations cuz the LipBar was clutch!! I started to drop the links to the previous posts of the series for a roundup but said umm...naaaah...that's too easy for yall lol. Feel free to play catch up as time permits and look around...stay a little while longer and be sure to SUBSCRIBE so u can have some balls dropped in ur inbox. Also, SHARE cuz while I know I'm the best kept secret; there's no need to be stingy **tee hee**

So I did a thing...I dipped into the world of Skims! I had been putting it off for a long time n tossed em in my wishlist. I had honestly forgot about em but every few months, I purge my draws drawer n figured for my birthday, I'd treat myself to some Kardashian undies. Figured I can't go wrong starting with those as an intro in the popular brand. I went into Nordstrom to feel n see em in person. I didn't wanna trust ordering online. I can tell with the variety offered, the sizing would be tricky but I love the options and how they felt. I settled on the 5 pk of full briefs in the poppy set (XL). I felt like the pack was a deal since the single pairs range from $18-32 depending on the style. After wearing these twice over, I can say they are winners. They are comfy and so light, you'll forget u have em on. Becuz I like the junk in my trunk to feel secured I typically wear high waist briefs n these were buttery soft. I will say...these aren't meant to last long. Again, I do a purge of underwear every 4-5 months but I don't know how u heaux do so just sayin...these skims ain't meant to go wit cho azz into retirement. They'll definitely come in handy under summer dresses to where u can still breathe and I'm totally sold on the draws! I'll prolly try the bodysuits next-we shall see but these skims been on my azz **pun intended** in a solid rotation for the past month or so. I love how sexy they feel riding against the skin...or skim lol. I can prance around in these n feel whimsical which is spoiling me-EEEK!! Let me know if you've tried this line n what u recommend to suit some comfy couture.

I was inspired by a good friend of mine for the title of this post. I am appreciative to have friends that aren't allowing me to be in an echo chamber n tell me bout myself "with love". I know when I chat with her, I can let it all out with no judgement n she listens. She listens n in the end, I can count on her to let me know what she thinks. I receive it, let it marinate n adhere to it or continue to be hard headed. Nonetheless, I take it well becuz I know she means well. There is a free space to float in when u find people u can naturally vibe with. As a communications major, using my words have always been a struggle becuz I can be opinionated n the delivery n tone can be taken out of context. Since I can take it as well as I dish it, I don't take anything personal which can come off nonchalantly but that's me! With getting older, I am gaining perspective to learn that there are times people receive messages in a negative tone based on what they might have going on wit their life. I'm tryin to see how to better explain it...lets seeeee...I know every month there's a period where I am more emotional n I might even be crabby. I can feel it...I can sense it...I just know it. Around this time is where someone might simply ask me for the time n I may snap back with a snarky response. It's then when I have to pause n check myself to process how I am receiving-the message! What I have learned is...I can only be so much responsible for how the receiver gets what I'm putting down as the messenger. To know me is to know-I come in PEACE! I love it when I come across like-minded people who understand this without saying it. It just seems like people who look to be offended or ones who wallow in playin victim cuz life hands them lemons opt for a reason to receive in a negative manner. This is where u need to check ur heart. If u find folks who enjoy mediocre lifestyles n lack growth; they'll typically misunderstand ur gesture. I think I've checked my heart so much, there's nothing I take in a negative manner unless it's a direct diss lol. Maybe becuz I'm open to constructive criticism or I live a life of abundance, lol, I might often times miss it. The biggest tip I can give is to consider the source to recognize the intent. My circle ain't for no drama n we all have the objective to see each other win so I value their opinions n advice. I just know when folks feel some type of envy n jealousy creeps in; the response is where u can always tell-Like giiiiiirl why u so maaaad! Check Your Heart :)

Day 23: MAC Relentlessly Red Now THIS is the retro matte the infamous Ruby Woo should've been! It glides on far better than the woo and leaves a lovely stain throughout the day. I love how its a red but not allllll the way red as it's like a coral red n a tinge of pink which gives me the best of both worlds actually. I love pink n red without it being an apple red. This pinky red has some dupes even tho this is a permanent shade at MAC ; All Fired Up is similar. I am just impressed to have found a retro matte that doesn't abuse my lips per swipe lol. It definitely has a great color payoff and will last until u scrub em off. Mattes make me feel-grown and I always prefer it over glossy lips becuz my skin glows (aka get oily throughout the day lol) and I like a flat face with contour to bring dimension to it-I know...makeup lingo lol. Nonetheless...this is a gorgeous shade that I'll probably keep at my desk at work to brighten up my boring face of just brows n mascara **whomp whomp**

Day 21: Mac Heaux (amplified finish) One of my favorite words to call u...heaux! If anyone remembers this Limited Edition shade from #Mac then you'd know there are 2 different finishes for this shade: retro matte from RiRi collection n this shade in an amplified finish; which I prefer over there retro mattes (Ruby Woo is overrated). Aaaah the good ol' days of chasing down LE's...well...the others did **fanning hand in shewing motion** cuz iiiiii had my plugs at the counter on lock n they'd hip me to the releases beforehand. To be honest...these berry lips can all look alike to me other than the finish which sets em apart. I do like how the amplified one applies n glides over the lips. It settles in nicely for long wear with a hint of shine. I love the red "alternative" with a berry lip on golden skin. This shade if u missed it can be replaced since it's similar to D for Danger (in the previous post). I will wear this shade more often in the future with bronzer cuz I love the effect of plums n brown. Welp...7 more days to go-whew!!

Welcome back to Monday...an extended weekend thanks to the Presidential Holiday! Yaaay...the last holiday until May **cue horror scream** We are on the last stretch of the month and my lips have 7 more days til #RedLipsOfLove ends and a month away from Spring! My weekend was so filled with love and I'm excited to share... My typical Starbucks Saturday was paused due to the lack of energy I had toting a Terror Tot in the cold. The temp dropped harder than a spade cutting a book in a card game as it went from 70 degrees Friday to 25 by Sat morning. I enjoyed my cupcake (my lil Toot) n a caramel cheesecake from Le Cake Boutique w/my SB backup-caramel macchiato (courtesy of Wegmans lol). I must say...I've been quite addicted to this small business bakery nearby in Stonebridge Town Center. I've been showing my face every few days to snatch up some macaroons which saves me a drive to Tyson's for Olivia's. I prefer to support smaller businesses of quality and because I am a familiar face, it's comforting giving my dollars to where they are appreciated and welcomed. I seem to experience better customer service with small businesses and I think we should recognize n support them more often to give some light to those who don't have the heavy manufacturers n brands backing them. Small businesses are organic and Le Cake Boutique offers a variety of sweets to enjoy. Saturday was National Wine Day and while yall know I am not much of a drinker, I am a newbie to the wine world. During the pandemic I became a slight sipper and found sweet reds are my fave. I'm no connoisseur to the level of pairings but I do look forward to visiting vineyards in the area and enjoying chatter n charcuterie boards for lunch this summer with my girls. Speaking of my girls...I enjoyed fellowship with old friends and new ones. I was excited to be apart of a surprise bridal shower over the weekend to celebrate my girls journey to entering the Wives Club. It was beautiful (and cultured) to see the love of family n friends to shower the bride-to-be. I can check Ethiopian cuisine off my bucket list and dabbled in some shoulder shimmies that I clearly need to work on before the wedding. As I continue to evolve on this journey of elevation, I find myself in great company after connecting with followers turned friends thanks to IG. I found my girl Vee, early last year and as we would randomly kiki in the DM's I learned after her retirement from the military she'd be relocating to the DMV area. Sweeeet-I love a good link! We finally made it happen to meet in person and our fellowship didn't disappoint. I know for some people the initial meet n greet can be leery cuz lets be real-folks be WEIRD! Proud to announce she didn't kidnap me n we nibbled on crepes n sipped THE BEST caramel macchiato from Cafe Du Soleil . It's a quaint small business tucked in Old Town Alexandria n I'll definitely return. After Vee was chatting it up with the server, we learned it was a black owned establishment n her charm n engagement got us some complimentary mimosas-cheers to kindness n sips on blessings! I am thankful n grateful how my tribe-village-sisterhood is extending to like minded women where we find each other as safe spaces. I look forward to all of coming together with mini meetups to pour into each other n check in to ensure we staying on track to greatness. A great weekend was had indeed with extended love to old friends and the start of new friendships. Also note, my red lips continue but if it's a repeat...I don't make a fresh blog post lol-no need to be redundant. Just know I have been the C word-Consistent :)